Tuesday, November 11, 2008

ADOPTIONS DO HAPPEN

If you have read our blog, you know that we are a couple who is hoping to adopt, so how do we know that Adoption happens? Because after waiting 355 days our adoption happened.

How do I start to tell you a story, I still don't believe myself. Well of course I had a total brillant way to share this with you, but we are still in Wyoming (waiting for the okay to leave the state) and my brilliant idea will have to wait until we are back home, and I have the Mac Daddy.

Last week when I told you we were in Wyoming getting a little R&R that wasn't exactly the truth, we were getting little CA.
Charlee Aletheia

She was born last Tuesday, she weighed 6 lbs 8 oz and was 20 3/4 in long. She is even cuter in person!! Her birth parents allowed us to be part of this special day with them, a day we will never forget and was better than anything we could have dreamed of.

Wednesday, was one of the most bitter sweet emotional days we have ever experienced in our lives. It was the day of placement, when the paperwork is signed. We have come to love and care about her birth mother Elle and her family and although we had just met her birth father Kolby and his family we too knew that this day did not come without a price. We are so excited to have Charlee in our home, but we know that it is through unconditional love and sacrifice that this happened and this is something that will never be over looked.
This is an open adoption and through emails and visits we have gotten to know her birth parents and many times Elle has said that she only wanted what was best for her baby girl and she wanted her to be happy. We will do whatever is best for Charlee and try to teach her how to lead a happy life.

Because this is an open adoption we will be staying in contact with Elle and Kolby, through emails, pictures, letters and visits. Charlee will always know she is adopted, she will always know that Elle and Kolby are her birth parents and they will always know how she is doing and what she is doing. What a wonderful blessing this is in our lives.

This is a designated adoption, meaning she found out we were trying to adopt through someone that we knew and when she went to our agency she had already selected us. Her mother knows Karst's mother and that is how they found out about us. This is why you should always be nice to your mother-in-law, she could help you find your family.

We just thought you might want to know that Adoption does happen, not always when we want them to, or the way we want them to. I will never know all the answers why this adoption happened sooner for us then other couples, or why it happened the way it did. What I do know is that this did not happen because of who we are or what we did. This adoption happened because of the love that our Heavenly Father has for Charlee, Elle, Kolby and us, and because Elle and Kolby excercised their free will in the manner they felt was best for Charlee.

I have learned that sometimes not being in control of everything can work out better than anything I could ever do.

This is a picture I have waited 10 years to see, Karst is an unbelievable dad, and I can't wait to tell you more, but right now I would rather watch Charlee sleep.

24 comments:

arianne said...

congrats! I am SO happy for you guys! What a beautiful name for a beautiful baby!!!! I bet you are in such a seventh heaven right now! Adoption is amazing!!

robb enger said...

That picture is so sweet. Congratulations you guys.

BTW - nice Larson and Co hat. :)

Vanessa Shannon said...

Kim I am so happy for you guys... that picture of Karsten and Charlee is so sweet. Im sure you are just over the moon with JOY! I cant believe you kept this a secret. How long have you known you were getting her? Im just so happy for you.....

Stormy said...

I (we) are absolutely elated over your news. We send our best wishes and love for your new addition. No doubt, you will both be wonderful parents. She is precious and I can't wait to read posts about her growth and see cute pics. How exciting!

Kim said...

I am in tears my sweet friend. She is gorgeous. I hope they let you guys come home soon because I want to kiss on her and photograph that little bundle with her papa and her gorgeous mama. I love you so much Kim! How blessed I feel to have you for my friend.

Congratulations, my heart is full.

moosh in indy. said...

CONGRATULATIONS!
I am three feet off my chair with goosebumps.

Domestic Extraordinaire said...

What a wonderful post. Congrats on the addition to your family!

Carlykins said...

Oh just happiness ALL over the place, miracles EVERYWHERE! I LOVE those sleeping pictures. I am in awe to see the birth mom and birth father involved. How sweet it is for your bundle. I love you families who are so selfless to open up your home to the birth families. It is an experience beyond words. Every time I see an adoption take place, my heart skips a beat, and I think literally. Isn't it amazing that one could not really do anything while they sleep and you could still what them for hours? What her away Kim and enjoy every minute of it as you DESERVE this miracle!!!! LOVE IT!!

YIPPY!

Midwest Mommy said...

Congratulations Mommy!
Your baby is beautiful.

Jen said...

wow Congratulations! She's precious and I'm sure life you will be forever changed for the best from now on. God bless.

Amanda said...

Congrats!! We are so excited for you. She is such a little cutie...LOVE the newborns! So gald that everything went well and praying that you get to come home soon!

Ron and Jessica said...

She is sooo cute and we're so happy to see this on your blog! And it's perfect that she's born in Wyoming ;)
Jessica

Rebecca said...

Congrats! How wonderful!

Brian and Baely said...

Congratulations! We are so excited for you guys! She is so beautiful! Karston has kept Brian updated on everything at work and it is such an amazing story! Good luck with everything

Jen said...

Oh Kim! I'm so happy for you!!!! What an amazing blessing!

Rob & Michelle Eberly Family said...

Kim--I found your blog through Naomi's. I'm soooo excited for you guys. I'm sitting here crying over your blog because I'm just so happy for you. What a precious little girl. Hope your adjustment to mommyhood goes smoothly. : )

leisha said...

Kim and Karst congrats! She is so beautiful and I can't wait for you to get home so that I can kiss on her. Adoptions do happen! And every one is a miracle. So happy for you. So glad that we are friends. Adoption is amazing.

Amy said...

Hooray and congrats! I'm thrilled for you and Karsten. Can't wait to meet your new little Charlee.

Matthew & Sally said...

Congratulations you two. What exciting news. It is wonderful and you will make great parents. I suppose that this is why people should keep in touch so they don't wake up one morning and all the sudden find out that something wonderful had happened to a friend and not know about it.
Matthew

leesh said...

what a beautiful baby! she will be so blessed to have you and karsten. i hope everything is going well. you guys deserve this. i am so happy for you!! love and peace!

mrs. r said...

i am weeping here!

i know you waiting such a long time to write these words. they really touched me.

i am overwhelmed at the photo with both a birth mother and a birth father together making this adoption happen. their expressions of love are incredible. i hope you frame this in her room.

that photo is what adoption is all about.

more tears. thank you SOO much for this today. i adore it.

Our Happy Family said...

I found your blog and I love your adoption story. My husband and I also adopted our little girl. We have an open adoption with her birth parents. It is the most wonderful thing to be able to get to know our daughters birth family. We do a lot of emails, pictures, and we have done a visit this past year. Some people don't understand the whole open adoption thing but the more that love your child the better. No one can have to much love. Adoption is such a wonderful blessing. Congratulations.

Betina said...

Your little girl is cuter than my 3 kids combined. Oh. But don't tell them I said that.

I love the birthparent picture. Breathtaking.

Mackey Family said...

Congrats Kim & Karsten! Your little girl is beautiful. You two will be wonderful parents! I can't wait to see your cute little Charlee!